Tuesday, June 3, 2008

Tuesday is the new Monday


My hubby's car is acting all crazy and we got rained on at Walmart. Today feels like a Monday!
I love buying new air fresheners, its the best part of coming home when the house smells all yummy..mmmmmm, good!

Next week is vacation time, I am so looking forward to it, cant wait!! St.Croix here we come ;)

Another birthday coming up too, not so exciting but with age comes knowledge and understanding so I say bring it on.

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

helicopter love


my other half is insanely obsessed with rc helicopters..
did someone say nerd?

i love greek salad


left work early today met noel and went to school to try and signup for classes the campus was very boring and basic which is perfect for me because it means less distractions
college doesnt seem so bad after all
yes im 31 and going back to college ... so what

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

she won...


everyone hates hilary except me- i think she is something else, a force to be reckoned with so to speak..


THIS IS A BREAKING NEWS UPDATE. Check back soon for further information. AP's earlier story is below.

PHILADELPHIA (AP) — Hillary Rodham Clinton gained a gritty victory in the Pennsylvania primary Tuesday night over a better-funded Barack Obama, staving off elimination in their historic race for the Democratic presidential nomination.

The former first lady was winning 54 percent of the vote to 46 percent for her rival with 35 percent of the vote counted, and she hoped for significant inroads into Obama's overall lead in the competition for delegates to the Democratic National Convention.

Clinton scored her victory by winning the votes of blue-collar workers, women and white men in an election where the economy was the dominant concern. He was favored by blacks, the affluent and voters who recently switched to the Democratic Party, a group that comprised about one in ten Pennsylvania voters, according to the surveys conducted by The Associated Press and the TV networks.

More than 80 percent of voters surveyed as they left their polling places said the nation was already in a recession.

Clinton won despite being outspent heavily by her rival in a six-week campaign that allowed time for intense courtship of the voters.

She showed her blue collar bona fides one night by knocking down a shot of whiskey, then taking a mug of beer as a chaser. Obama went bowling in his attempt to win over working-class voters.

The win gave Clinton a strong record in the big states as she attempts to persuade convention superdelegates to look past Obama's delegate advantage and his lead in the popular vote in picking a nominee. She had previously won primaries in Texas, California, Ohio and her home state of New York, while Obama won his home state of Illinois.

At the same time, even some of her aides conceded she is facing another likely must-win challenge in Indiana in two weeks time, particularly with Obama favored to carry North Carolina on the same day.

Clinton gained at least 28 delegates with her victory, with another 130 still to be awarded.

That left Obama with an overall lead of 1648.5 to 1537.5, totals that include the superdelegates who are not picked in primaries and caucuses.

Clinton projected confidence to the end of the Pennsylvania campaign, scheduling an election-night rally in Philadelphia. Obama signaled in advance he expected to lose, flying off to Indiana for an evening appearance even before the polls closed.

Flush with cash, Obama reported spending $11.2 million on television in the state, more than any place else. That compared with $4.8 million for Clinton.

The tone of the campaign was increasingly personal — to the delight of Republicans and John McCain, the GOP presidential nominee-in-waiting gaining in the polls while the Democrats battle in primaries deep into the spring.

"In the last 10 years Barack Obama has taken almost $2 million from lobbyists, corporations and PACs. The head of his New Hampshire campaign is a drug company lobbyist, in Indiana an energy lobbyist, a casino lobbyist in Nevada," said a Clinton commercial that aired in the final days of the race.

Obama responded with an ad that accused Clinton of "eleventh-hour smears paid for by lobbyist money." It said that unlike his rival, he "doesn't take money from special interest PACs or Washington lobbyists — not one dime."

Also to the delight of Republicans, the six-week layoff between primaries produced a string of troubles for the Democrats.

Obama was forced onto the defensive by incendiary comments by his pastor, Rev. Jeremiah Wright, then triggered controversy on his own by saying small-town Americans cling to guns and religion because of their economic hardships.

Clinton conceded that she had not landed under sniper fire in Bosnia while first lady, even though she said several times that she had. And she replaced her chief strategist, Mark Penn, after he met with officials of the Colombian government seeking passage of a free trade agreement that she opposes.

The remaining Democratic contests are primaries in North Carolina, Indiana, Oregon, Kentucky, West Virginia, Montana, South Dakota and Puerto Rico, and caucuses in Guam.

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David Espo reported from Washington.

another monday and all i want are new sneakers

hold on its tuesday!! well, let me say i am a busy busy little bee. i sat here at this same computer last nite and didnt feel like writing, i was tired and here i am again tired.work is draining all my energy and i get home and i just wanna crash! anyway i am in search of a few things i really want and here they are..hot shit


Thursday, April 17, 2008

what is wrong with this crazy bitch?

has lil kim gone totally blind? cause then i would understand her downward spiral towards what she has become : a tranny

What does Black sound like?

*although i'm not black i can relate&this was interesting to me..



10 Things Never to Say to a Black Coworker

source: http://www.diversityinc.com/public/3372.cfm


In 2008, you'd think the taboo subjects and phrases would be clearly outlined and understood by all when it comes to what is and is not acceptable to say to a Black colleague. But that's far from the case. Here are 10 things you never want to say to a Black coworker or boss.

1) You're so articulate

You're so … articulate? Smart? Different? Yes, the speaker may intend a compliment, but what may be meant as praise instead comes across as being condescending. It implies the person being complimented is an exception to the rule and is exhibiting behavior atypical of others of his or her ethnic background.

"I haven't had it said to me, maybe I'm not articulate enough, but I've heard a number of Blacks say they've had it said to them … you're so articulate or you're so smart or intelligent," says Berlinda Fontenot-Jamerson, former director of diversity at Disney ABC Television Group. In her many years in the diversity industry, Fontenot-Jamerson has seen and heard it all. Some of it still makes her cringe.

"I feel like education and awareness is my mission, so I try to be kind when I check people to help them understand what they just said," she says. "I might make a joke to help them understand that it was a faux pas, and hopefully I have good enough relationships with them to have further conversations with them."

2) Is That Your Real Hair?

Danielle Robinson, director of diversity, talent and organizational design at Diageo, a wine, beer and spirits company, said she was amazed when she got this question from a colleague. But instead of getting angry, Robinson explained to her coworker why the question was inappropriate.

"There are a number of ways to respond. But I told the person they had no idea if they might be asking that question to someone suffering from a medical condition [such as] someone recovering from cancer treatment," she says. "I wound up giving this one woman a little lesson because you never know what the situation might be of the person you're asking a question."

3) "You" people

"I've heard this one several times," says Fontenot-Jamerson. Who exactly are "You people," and how do they differ from regular people? Use this poorly chosen phrase at your own risk.

4) Do you eat a lot of … (plug in the offending stereotype here)

Some stereotypes simply refuse to die. There's nothing wrong with natural curiosity about the ethnic eating habits of some of your coworkers. The problem lies in focusing on stereotypical Black fare such as fried chicken, watermelon, etc. It reveals the speaker has a very limited and narrow perception of Black culture and cuisine.

"One of my young relatives told me when they go out on interviews they may get queries about fried chicken and the stereotypes about the food that we like to eat," says Fontenot-Jamerson.

5) Why are you so angry?

This one is more often directed at Black males, thanks in large part to the media, which often portrays Black men as being angry and/or criminals.

6) Why are you acting white?

Consider this a relative of "You're so articulate." Why would exhibiting proper behavior, manners or dialect be categorized as acting white? If that's the case, what does it mean to act Black?

7) You don't sound Black over the phone.

What does Black sound like?

8) I don't think of you as Black.

DiversityInc Partner and Cofounder Luke Visconti received a letter from a reader who was presented with this particular compliment. He responded, "What you are experiencing is the first instance of a person accepting another person who is outside of their 'tribe.' Although the words and the sentiment are insulting, the person expressing them is (usually) not consciously trying to insult you. In their backward and ignorant way, they are actually trying to give you a compliment."

9) You graduated from where?

This particular offense came to our attention directly from one of our readers, Beatriz Mallory, who wrote, "In a career of nearly 30 years, I've heard them all. I am both African American and Hispanic, so I get it from both sides, on top of being a female. In trying to recall the worst, I'd have to nominate this one. It is the unguarded question "YOU went to CORNELL? WOW!" The implication is that in their mind, someone like me isn't automatically worthy of such an accomplishment. I never express my annoyance."

10) The N-word

The ultimate faux pas. Just because you've seen repeats of Dave Chapelle's show where the word is used liberally, that doesn't give you--or anyone--license to make conversational use of the word. To read more on the debate, read Double Standard: Can You Use the N-Word? in the Jan./Feb. 2008 issue of DiversityInc.

And don't fall into the trap of thinking substituting an "A" for the "er" makes the word acceptable. Fontenot-Jamerson believes it's a word used far too casually among youths, both white and Black.

"The new generation uses the N-word very loosely [and] the white kids do it too," she says. "I've been in the company where the youngsters have been using the word because they don't understand the history that comes with it."

Like Fontenot-Jamerson, Robinson looks at each misspoken phrase as an opportunity to teach and educate. "A lot of the questions are usually out of ignorance or genuine curiosity. So I always look at opportunities like these as a chance to educate," says Robinson. "Instead of getting angry, you don't want them to make this mistake with someone else. There are ways to ask a question more inquisitively that won't offend."

Monday, April 14, 2008

ummm yeah...

some mondays suck more than others, and i must say today wasnt as bad as it couldve been..
so i guess oprah's book club is working and i may be living a more conscious life already?could it really be..well i didnt have road rage today and for that i must deserve an award or two.today i want to talk of all the good things that happened this monday- i woke up , and as the morning unfolded i realized i had to go to work so off i went on my new found local route, no need to be pissed off on i-4 got to work on time and did what i get paid to do..and the coffee pot was there today, no hijacking this week thank god.
my weekend left me wanting at least 16 more hours of sleep but since that wasnt possible I have decided to go to bed an hour earlier all week long.
all i can say is i am thankful to have all that i do have especially on mondays

Thursday, April 10, 2008

what is wrong with artie??


awww.....artie choked his assistant teddy and quit the howard stern show today..wow
of course i missed the show and they are not replaying it, dam bastards
who's censoring now?!!

whatever

today was almost as crappy as monday but i had a mocha frap this morning so go figure
the best part was the whip cream ... m mm ' good
i keep reading shit about this John Mayer , who fucking cares ?? who gives a shit about him anyways? Some new rumor that he initiated a kiss with Perez Hilton.. umm why does anyone care if these 2 assholes kiss each other? stop using up precious air time with this bullshit- UGH!!!!! is this world so mad that people care about this?
i had a little road rage today but i am trying to start living in the "now" and trying to accept things i cant change ..like assholes on i-4 doing 35 in a 65
which is ironic coming from someone who was pulled over in the past for going too slow- i was lost what can i say

can someone tell me how to get this guy's job? I mean really, i can totally perfect the art of underwear walking..






Monday, April 7, 2008

shoes







frye shoes totally rock, when i was like 16 i got my 1st pair of frye harness boots which i totally loved, now i am in search of a new pair-here are the ones I want so badly

its freakin monday again and there are no subways in orlando




well today wasnt as bad as last monday but it still sucked the best part was sleeping til 10 am worst part was getting to work and figuring out the coffee pot was missing...who the hell takes home a fucking coffee pot? omg i was so annoyed i go to work for 2 reasons to get paid and to have coffee i wanted to flip my desk over and leave, the one day i need caffeine the most-then out of sheer pissed off-ness i went to the nature's table and got their crappy coffee which is crappy like that whole franchise they are crap monsters i hate them ok hate is too harsh i strongly dislike them my boss seemed to be happy so she didnt bother me yay now i am home and my husband is playing with his helicopter , and I am listening to Ella Fitzgerald and Louis Armstrong , how beautiful the sound coming out these speakers i dont mind this at all i finally bought "a new earth" the book oprah has been raving about and doing her online classes on what an ass i felt like asking the little twerp in barnes and noble for "a new world" she looked at me like "you pathetic loser" then i thought hey at least i dont work at barnes and noble!!
hahahahahahhah

I found my halloween costume

The Notorious Bettie Page


as sexy as ever, ms bettie page

every girl should be a her own version of a famous pinup model? just a thought

Saturday, April 5, 2008

preppy love









these are a few of my favorite things...

some girls are bigger than others


are the smiths the best band ever?i think so.
many love rolling stones, the beatles , the doors but my heart and ears belong to the smiths.i was introduced to the smith when i was 15 by a psycotic friend vikki carrasquillo, what a crazy bitch-she stole all my favorite shoes and blamed it on depression or something weird like shoplifting addiction, i dont know .anyways i guess the smiths were worth the shoes.
the sad part is that at 31 none of my current friends know who the smiths are or care so i have no one to relate to about my love of the smiths.oh well.

Monday, March 31, 2008

i hate mondays


i've always wondered what it would be like to be rich and not have to worry about the dreaded inevitable monday. wow, today seemed extra long like waiting in line to pee - whatever
it was a long day but after spending the weekend in miami nothing could really compare especially going to work. i like miami its an interesting city with lots of fake beautiful people.my favorite part is all the water, waterways, the ports, yachts and megayachts - now those i admire
it was the winter music conference and let me just say miami bursting at its seams
one bentley after another, lamborghinis and ferraris after my 5th i was like ok what the hell are these people doing for a living?? are all selling drugs or something? and everyone had a dam boat ah the glamorous life..

Thursday, March 27, 2008

A poem by Wislawa Szymborska:


The End and the Beginning

After every war
someone has to clean up.
Things won’t
straighten themselves up, after all.
Someone has to push the rubble
to the sides of the road,
so the corpse-laden wagons can pass.

Someone has to get mired
in scum and ashes,
sofa-springs,
splintered glass,
and bloody rags.

Someone must drag in a girder
to prop up a wall.
Someone must glaze a window,
rehang a door.

Photogenic it’s not,
and takes years.
All the cameras have left
for another war.

Again we’ll need bridges
and new railway stations.

Sleeves will go ragged
from rolling them up.
Someone, broom in hand,
still recalls how it was.
Someone listens
and nods with unsevered head.
Yet others milling about
already find it dull.

From behind the bush
sometimes someone still unearths
rust-eaten arguments
and carries them to the garbage pile.

Those who knew
what was going on here
must give way to
those who know little.
And less than little.
And finally as little as nothing.

In the grass which has overgrown
causes and effects,
someone must be stretched out,
blade of grass in his mouth,
gazing at the clouds.

fathers have rights too..

my dear brother suffers and is a target of parental alienation..

this article is from http://www.paawareness.org/


What is Parental Alienation?


Parental alienation involves the mental manipulation and/or bullying of children, which can result in destroying a loving and warm relationship they once shared with a parent.

Parental alienation and hostile aggressive parenting deprives children of their right to be loved by and showing love for both of their parents. Parental Alienation can occur in intact families, but is mostly seen in separated and divorced families.

Parents/guardians using alienation tactics to hurt the other 'target' parent have been compared to cult leaders. These people put their own hatred, anger and motives before their own childs emotional and mental health. In effect, they treat their children as nothing more than possessions, and ammunition to hurt the 'target' parent.

Professionals argue whether Parental Alienation is a Syndrome or not. But they all agree that the problem exists and it's damaging to children, and can affect them into adulthood.

What is Parental Alienation Syndrome?


Parental alienation syndrome (PAS) is a psychological condition most often observed in children affected by high conflict divorce and/or separation. It is one of the most damaging outcomes affecting children as a result of exposure to PA and Hostile-Aggressive Parenting. The most common symptom of children affected by PAS is their severe opposition to contact with one parent and/or overt hatred toward such parent when there is little and often, no logical reason to explain the child's behavior. The effects of PAS can last well into adulthood and may last for a lifetime with tragic consequences.

Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is different from Parental Alienation (PA). PAS refers to the behaviors of the child, whereas PA describes the abusive behaviors of a parent or caregiver. There are many debates as to whether PAS exists or is 'Junk Science'. PAAO believes that is for the experts to decide, we concentrate on bringing awareness and education about the abusive behaviors of parents & caregivers, whether or not they cause PAS is not important, what is important is that the abuse be recognized and stopped.


How can it happen?


During the crisis of divorce, most parents fear whether their children will emerge unscathed. Any reasonable and empathetic parent sincerely believes in the value of his or her children having a healthy relationship with both parents. Ideally, parents deliberately work on comforting and reassuring the children that no harm will come to them. At the same time, both try to strengthen their parent-child relationships without degrading the other parent or causing the children to feel divided loyalty. They encourage visits, talk kindly of the other parent in the children's presence, and set aside their own negative feelings to avoid causing the children distress. They are sensitive to the children's needs and encourage positive feelings toward the other parent. This outcome is the goal of not only the parents and children, but also the attorneys and judge involved in the case.

However, any number of events can destroy the fragile balance of peace between parents. If this happens, an injured parent may seek comfort by aligning with the children, especially since be or she may feel threatened by the children's love for the other parent. A pattern of alienation usually begins without any malicious or conscious intent to harm or destroy the relationship between the other parent and the children. Though most parents mean well, they are often unaware of how subtle behaviors and comments can hurt the relationship between the children and the targeted parent. Alienating parents however learn how to manipulate and use their children to hurt the other parent on purpose, and with a vengeance. This can include anything from outright telling the children their other parent does not love them and does not want to be with them, to destroying and hiding communication from the other parent, to simply refusing to act as a 'parent' when a child does not want to spend time with, or is rude to, the other, and empowering their child to do as they wish.

In 1994, approximately 2.4+ million North Americans obtained divorces, including the parents of more than one million children under the age of eighteen. Nearly as many unmarried couples with children will separate. Thanks to sky-high divorce rates and recent increases in the number and viciousness of child custody battles, there has been a marked increase in parental alienation. Children suffer from a breakup because they are torn, trapped, precariously balanced, as if one wrong move could cost them all their parents' love and acceptance. This can easily lead to disastrous effects on children. Various studies show that youngsters exposed to even mildly alienating behaviors may have trouble learning, concentrating, relaxing, or getting along with their peers. They have been known to develop physical symptoms and/or serious behavior problems. Clearly then, parental alienation is a threat to the mental and emotional health of a child.


Some early signs of Parental Alienation:

  • Children perceive one parent as causing financial problems of the other parent
  • Children appear to have knowledge of details relating to the legal aspects of the divorce or separation
  • Children show sudden negative change in their attitude toward a parent/guardian
  • Children appear uneasy around target parent - they resort to "one word" answers and fail to engage openly in conversations as they previously have done
  • Children are uncharacteristically rude and/or belligerent to target parent
  • Access time is not occurring as agreed upon or court ordered - visitation is being unilaterally cut back by the other parent
  • Hostile Aggressive Parent (HAP) parent undermines the other parent or speaks disparagingly about other parent in the presence of the children
  • HAP parent starts making reference to other parent as being abusive and a risk to the children with no apparent good reason
  • Allowing children to choose whether or not to visit a parent, even though the court has not empowered the parent or children to make that choice;
  • Telling the children about why the marriage failed and giving them the details about the divorce or separation settlement;
  • Refusing the other parent access to medical and school records or schedules of extracurricular activities;
  • Blaming the other parent for not having enough money, changes in lifestyle, or other problems in the children's presence;
  • Rigid enforcement of the visitation schedule for no good reason other than getting back at the other parent;
  • False allegations of sexual abuse, drug and alcohol use or other illegal activities by the other parent;
  • Asks the children to choose one parent over the other;
  • Reminding the children that the children have good reason to feel angry toward their other parent;
  • Setting up temptations that interfere with visitation;
  • Giving the children the impression that having a good time on a visit will hurt the parent;
  • Asking the children about the other parent's personal life;
  • 'Rescuing' the children from the other parent when there is no danger.
Simply put, the parents engaging in such behavior are un-fit, abusive parents, putting their own emotional needs before those of their children.

On Marriage, responding to "how is marriage"


Hey there!! How is your Governor doin? Poppin collars slapping hoes??!! LOL

Let me just say I love NEW YORK and miss it dearly.
I love the whole concept of marriage , I love the fact that on some level morals actually play a role in my life. I mean I am not tryin to sound holier than thou or mother teresa like because i certainly am not, however I must say that I am happy to be married and I enjoyed my wedding I totally wish I could do it like every weekend (BIG PARTY with lots of GIFTS--lol)
I mean marriage may not be for everyone because some people need variety however. I have reached this place in life where I am satisfied with the role my husband plays as my husband - you know what I mean? And Im sure its the same for him. I mean every dude can lust after the average big booty girl however you cant always wife that type of chick cause theyre too entrenched in how big their asses are and what dude can do what for them and what club they gonna hit next wknd, thats great to watch but is that girl gonna make a good mommy? probably not
I need a dude that will be there with me when I am fine as hell and when I get old and gray and the boobies start saggin..I need intellectual stimulation because a penis is sometimes not enough.